Made someone angry? Create something positive from what's happened
How much about this situation is about them RATHER THAN YOU?
Done something which made a person angry?
Did you aim to make them angry...or was it a genuine mistake?
What is the 'gremlin' within them which is giving them permission to be angry?
You can sort this out... and learn more about YOU at the same time
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Consider the possibility that it may be more to do with them than YOUFirst though what can you do to make things better?
The 5 languages of love will help you decide your best approach for this person.
At the same time it will help you if you identify what the feelings are inside of you which their anger has created.
Remember these feelings will have, most probably, been initially generated in childhood and will be operating at a deep subconscious level.
Let's use this as an opportunity to remember your own hurt which their anger has triggered and put this seemingly negative event to positive use.
This emotion has an energy behind it which you can use for yourself now in a positive way rather than dwelling on what has happened and going inward and blaming yourself or feeling shame. It will not help either you or them to sink into a place of despair. Instead try to release those thoughts.
A positive mind set plus positive self-messages are important.
Together these help us stop the barrage of thoughts of blame and self hate which are invading your mind. Create a clearer space in your head to make good judgements on what is REALLY happening here - rather than going into our unhelpful defaults - it's all my fault, how stupid I am, I'm a failure. NONE OF THESE ARE TRUE!
so let's make the thoughts positive, constructive and caring and shut out the invading, self-destructive, thoughts.
|You're now in a better place space to think about the best approach to DEAL POSITIVELY with this situation
|Remember it's only us who can change those thoughts
Understanding of the science of the Neuroplasticity of the brain helps us realise HOW a thought can have a physiological effect on the neurons, our brain cells. Your thoughts can create new pathways in your brain which will benefit you throughout your life. Neuroplasticity is the 'muscle building' part of the brain. BUT this will take a little time plus your commitment to make the change.
KEEP SAYING THEM EVEN IF YOU DO NOT THINK THEY ARE TRUE
I value myself even though I've made them angry
I am calm and collected.
I am valued and respected within my relationship.
I am safe, I love myself.
I love and accept myself as I am now warts and all
I am at peace
Fake it til you become it – the brain is rewiring itself
Those rubbish thoughts are invading again
You have a CHOICE as to what you think about, it’s really as simple as that, but the hard part is breaking the HABIT of those old thoughts ‘whizzing’ around our minds.
Keep bringing yourself back time and again to the positive thoughts. Treat yourself the way you would treat a puppy dog - " come back, come back I know I got things wrong but come back to me for a hug".
This is a new way of being and
Now you’re ready to
What has happened is an opportunity to grow and become a stronger you
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